Tom and I awoke on Monday morning to the news of the Las Vegas tragedy, and immediately experienced the massive ripples of emotion that terrible events like these create.
With everything in our beings, we wish we could wash away the hurt, pain, anger and absolute rage that follows acts of such destruction. Much like a mother can kiss away the pain of a scraped knee...if it could only be that simple!
(Note: this blog is part three of a four part series. To start at the beginning of the series, click here. To read part two, click here.)
"My abandonment stuff is leaking all over me, and I am working overtime to not let my new boyfriend see it; but I know it is creating distance between us Stace, and I don’t know what to do!"
"I am all over the place, and my heart is hurting for no clear reason. What is wrong with me? I have even taken time between relationships to be alone, just like the experts say to do...for the last 16 years!" pleaded my friend and client Becky.
(Note: this blog is part two of a four part series. To start at the beginning of the series, click here. To read part three, click here.)
“I love you, please don’t go,” I desperately wanted to say; but instead my fears of rejection were running my show.
I decided to appear emotionally unaffected and continued to present my air of indifference, by not allowing myself to share the love for him I so deeply felt.
My lover had fears of his own he was desperately working hard to manage.
Have you ever or are you currently struggling with the fears of intimacy?
It looks something like this...
You meet someone, start spending more and more time together and somewhere along with way you find yourself consumed with fears of commitment while struggling with the big question of...
Should I stay or leave before it gets too serious?
Most of us do not believe that it is ok to ask for what we truly need and want to be happy. That is selfish, right?!
I am gonna need to push the "WRONG button" on this one.
Furthermore, I am gonna bet very few of us have ever been taught HOW to ask for what we want in the most effective way possible.
I can see your face with a blank stare…
Believe it or not, knowing how to ask in a way that works is a skill. And a good one to know and use, especially if you're dating after divorce.
