Definition of betrayal: the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations.
In your opinion, what is the worst form of betrayal?
Maybe your partner sleeps with your best friend, or lies to you about where they spend some money. Perhaps they leave you and ultimately choose to build a life with someone else. Or maybe they use your vulnerability to get back at you in some way…
These indeed are all forms of hurtful betrayal.
But there is a form of betrayal that - believe it or not - is much more crippling to your relationship than any of these.
And here’s the good news: if you understand and catch this form of betrayal early on, you have a much better chance of keeping it from destroying your relationship.
The type of betrayal that I am talking about generally happens way before any of the above-mentioned expressions of betrayal above occur. It is the betrayal of disengagement.
The sneaky thing about this type of deception is most of us start doing it unconsciously.
We distance ourselves from our partners mistakenly thinking it will improve the problems we’re currently facing in our relationship.
But what we don’t realize is that disengaging quickly turns into feelings of not caring.
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We’re no longer willing to dedicate time on the growth and rebuilding of the relationship. And as a result, we lose the connection we once had.
When the people we love stop caring about us and about the relationship, they no longer give us the attention they once did. They stop investing in and working on the relationship.
Trust and safety slips away, as the fear and pain floods in. When our partner disengages, many of us become triggered and experience a whole host of negative feelings.
We can feel abandoned, ashamed, unworthy, and unlovable.
This sends our relationship on a crash course. Much like a fighter jet spinning out of control while the pilot and co-pilot frantically rush to eject themselves.
Keep in mind it only takes one person checking out from the relationship to create harm.
If one person is striving to create cooperative involvement from the other partner with no avail, it’s likely they’ll grow weary and eventually give up, leaving them feeling emotional drained and exhausted.
So instead of waiting for the signs of betrayal in your relationship that you think are the worst, (like an emotional affair) pay attention when you or your partner disengages and take some action toward reconnection.
If you find yourself in this place right now, where disengagement is poisoning your relationship, help is here.
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