We hear the voice inside of us say “I think am falling in love again!" and in this moment, some of us run.

We run because we think that if we can avoid the feeling of love, we can avoid the pain we believe is sure to come once the love fades away. “It always does!” we profess. Truth is we are fearful of the pain that love sometimes brings.

For others, we let go of everything that means something to us, as a way of ensuring that the love we have attracted this time will last forever. We convince ourselves that if we can just give up all that is important to us and focus on them, our love and relationships will finally work out!

It was September 22, 1978. I was a 14-year-old girl with braces, all dressed up for my sister’s wedding and waiting for the ceremony to begin.

I had grown weary of the chaos of it all and sought refuge on the front porch of my family home as I watched the cars go by. With the sun shining down on my face and bare shoulders, I finally felt peace at last.

All of a sudden, I noticed a car pulling up to park directly across the street from me. Almost simultaneously, my soon to be brother-in-law dashed around the corner all smiles, and shouted, “You made it!” to the car of four of his closest friends.

Most think it is infidelity...but they’re wrong!

Individuals and couples trapped and imprisoned by negativity become adversaries instead of lovers. They’re stuck in a place they can’t seem to escape.

We call it N.O. - no love is happening because of Negativity Overrule.

People who are stuck in N.O. talk past each other, and don’t seem at all interested in understanding the other person. Their Negativity Overrules the majority of their interactions in relationships. Even couples desperately striving to stick it out often lose the connection that lovers share which is usually described as passionate, magical, heart throbbing love.

Truth is, they have been poisoned.